Seductive Man

What is the seductive philosophy?

The seductive philosophy is about living a life of balance and effectiveness. It is a way of living that allows us to provide for our wants and needs in the most effective way.

Balance

We need to balance our needs, wants and time. I saw a saying once that said, “Hard work pays off in the future. Laziness pays of now.” While it is both true and humorous, it provides an either/or choice. Have fun now and be screwed later or work hard now and maybe die before you get the payoff. The grasshopper versus the ant story. There is a third option. Effective work pays of now and in the future and takes less time. Hard work gives up time and wants for needs and the promise of fulfilled wants in the future. Laziness gives up future needs and wants for time and wants and needs now. Effective work maximizes time spent on work to provide for wants and needs now and in the future.

Before we go about working on our wants and needs though, we need to define them. Keep in mind at this point that the whole hard work pays of in th4 future thing assumes that the work is both not fun and not fulfilling.

The symphony of 3 parts

In Kenton Kneppers book “Completely Cold” he talked about a cold reading technique that allows the person with the understanding of the technique to drill down quickly to the core wants and needs of others to therefore help them define issues in their life. It is a technique that he came up with for use in psychic readings. The technique is effective because it simply defines the core drives of people and allows the cold reader to pull out issues based on these core drives. Looking at these 3 core drives we can answer some very basic questions about ourselves. What do we need to live? What is the most effective way of taking care of our needs? What are our wants? How do we fulfill our wants after we take care of our needs?

Our needs and wants fall into 3 categories.

The Pareto Principal

who is pareto?

Pareto principal states that, for many events, 80% of the effects comes from 20% of the causes. If 20% of what we do creates 80% of our success or problems then we should not do the 20% that creates 80% of our problems but instead focus on the 20% of the things we do that create 80% of our success.

The Tight 20

We use the most effective methods to achieve our needs so we can expand into our wants. As we gain effectiveness at achieving our wants we increase effectiveness at maintaining our needs. This effectiveness builds on itself so we spend less time gaining more. Taking care of our needs becomes automatic and gaining and maintaining our wants becomes automatic as well.

If we put 20% of our focus into health, wealth and relationships and use that 20% as the focal point of all our activities, We find the center of greatest effect for our lives. It is the MOST effective 20% in each area.

The Venn Diagram

Venn Diagrams show all of the possible mathematical or logical relationships between sets (groups of things). If we use a Venn Diagram we can create a diagram of what I am talking about. If we draw 3 circles, one each for health, wealth and relationships, with the 20% points for each being the focal point for the diagram, we get 3 interlocking circles. The center of each circle is 50% focus and the far edge away from the other 2 circles is 100% focus.

People become obsessive and less effective the more they focus on any part of their life. The harder we work the less effective it is and the more dangerous it is for us. We let the other parts of our lives go and those areas will pull the area of focus down as well. You can’t make money if you have a heart attack.

As we move away from the 20% in any one area toward the 50% point we decrease effectiveness on the other points and at 50% focus we are completely ignoring the other 2 areas of our lives. If we cut into our 40% buffer, we can still keep our 20% but the more we focus on one, the more let the others atrophy.

Freedom From Want

As we increase effectiveness at achieving our needs and wants, wants become less important and we free ourselves from want. It isn’t the goal but it is the end effect.

Why Call It The Seductive lifestyle?

Why do I call this the seductive lifestyle? We all want our needs and wants taken care of. This is a method of building our life to effectively gain what we need and desire. Living this way draws people to us. We are ambitious and dedicated to our betterment and in the end also the betterment of others. The lifestyle is seductive. We want to live a life of more and better. Others see us living a life of joy and fulfillment and want to be part of it. It seduces them.